Is it okay to teach our children to look for the silver lining? The answer is “YES”! We want kids to be able to build resilience by understanding how to find the silver lining in difficult situations. Not only does it build strength, but it also builds character. But did you know that it is strongly connected to gratitude and happiness?

Looking for the good that may come from a difficult situation is not usually the first reaction we have when faced with disappointments and adversities, but it can definitely help build that connection to focusing on the things that we can control. Teaching a child how to find the silver lining could be as simple as dealing with a soccer game that gets rescheduled due to rain. You could say something like, “Well at least we don’t have to be outside in the cold. We can play board games together instead and that will be fun.”

Here are a few other ways you can use the “silver lining” method to teach gratitude.
1. Point out what you have had in the past and be grateful for the time spent together or the experiences shared – much like cherishing the memories.
2. In moderately tough situations, ask your child the question, “What good may come from something difficult like this?”
3. In really tough situations, be mindful not to use the silver lining too soon after the tough situation is experienced. Give space for your child to heal and revisit the idea of possibly cherishing memories or even lessons learned. This may be used in the case of the death of a loved one or in failing a test.
Remember that the more you practice and model gratitude, the more it will become a nature part of your family’s fabric and your children will continue to benefit for a lifetime from what they have learned.

If you need more support in this area, let us guide you in that process. There is so much more you can do to ensure that your child’s mental wellness is strong. We are here to partner with you in giving your child the best opportunities in life possible!

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