When you look into the mirror, do you ever see your child? Do you ever pay attention to what physical features you both have in common? How about the personality features you share? When they are doing things or engaging in certain types of behavior, do you find yourself saying, “Yep, he got it honest,” or “I used to do that, too”?
It’s so common for parents to reflect on who we are just by watching our children. Some much of us is in them and vice versa. Hey, we can point to genetics for much of that. However, some behaviors are going to be shaped by experiences and environment, whether good or bad, but it’s our responsibility as parents to reflect on our parenting style regularly and make adjustments where needed in order to give our child the best possible chance to live a happy, healthy life.
In my Building Child Confidence Through Strengths framework, I help parents use self-reflection to make connections between their natural strengths and effective parenting strategies that work specifically for them. As parents, it is sooooooo important to align your strengths with how you carry out discipline, praise, and accountability with your own children. This method yields the best results possible and the best thing about is that you can do it almost effortlessly and with minimal stress. So next time you look in the mirror, reflect on three personality traits that best describe you and apply it to your parenting style.